Monday, May 16, 2011

Modesty - News Flash: It IS Our Problem

“The good of our soul is more important that the good of our body; and we have to prefer the spiritual welfare of our neighbor to our bodily comforts. If a certain kind of dress constitutes a grave and proximate occasion of sin, and endangers the salvation of your soul and others, it is your duty to give it up” Pope Pius XII in Moral Problems In Fashion Design 1957.

In 1957, Pope Pius XII called out the importance of modesty in one’s dress throughout their life, reminding us it is our duty. We have responsibility to the other. We are all called to holiness and we are all called to help each other attain holiness; therefore, it is our duty to be sure we help our brothers avoid the sins of impurity and lust by dressing modestly, and it our duty to hold our sisters accountable by calling them out when they dress immodestly.
How do we call our sisters out?

Do’sDon’ts
  • Pull them aside
  • Be nice
  • Say it in a way that won’t offend them
  • Suggest ways to help
  • Offer to go shopping
  • Continue to hold her accountable
  • Pray for them
  • Example – Hey Sue, I just wanted to let you know your shirt the other day was a little low, you try putting a cami over it or wearing a cardigan
  • Call them out in a crowd
  • Call them out on facebook
  • Be rude
  • Yell
  • Become angry
  • Feel betrayed if friend doesn’t respond well

It is easy for us to rationalize our immodest dress – ex. It’s hot outside, it’s not that bad, you can’t see anything, etc. However, this is just laziness. We want to modify the standards of modesty to ease our struggle and we don’t want to change.

It’s said in many books when you willfully cause a person to sin, it is a sin itself. Jesus says that if one causes another to sin it would have been better for that person to have never been born – now that sounds a little extreme, but if you think about it – striving for holiness is a challenge and it is our duty. Failing to fulfill our duty as Christians is no small task. However, don’t become overwhelmed. It’s hard to do and something we must work at.

This is hard for me to say because I think of my past and how I’ve dressed, and because I know it’s hard to hear, but I know it needs to be heard, and I say with love and with the desire my fellow sisters will realize the important of modesty. Willful immodesty is a grave, grave sin. Willful immodesty stems from two main reasons: 1. You are too lazy to dress modestly, go through your closet and get rid of modest clothes, take the time to shop and look for modest clothes, and help your brothers get to heaven. 2. You are choosing to draw attention to parts of your body reserved for your spouse, seeking the glorification of your body rather than the glorification of God and the Holy Spirit who dwells within you. Both points 1 and 2 are extremely severe cases of sin.

Remember that each day you are making an impact on others around you. What kind of impact are you making? Are you revealing the beauty of God? Or are you a spark lighting the fire of impurity for men?
Ask yourself that question each time you get dressed.

Continue reading as we will discuss where to go from here and how to change seductive immodest dress to beautiful modest dress!

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